From the dawn of humanity, we have been on the look out for danger. This is why we’re literally hard wired to be fearful. That and the fact that our parents taught us about ‘Stranger Danger’ it’s no wonder half the world is stuck in a fear-based reality.
Fear causes a release of endorphins within our body which cause a physical response, like a racing heart beat or a hot face and neck. Typically, we either want to run away, defend ourselves, we just freeze up entirely – paralyzed with fear.
All this is fine when you’re facing a hangry saber tooth tiger, or a masked person with a knife. But when it keeps us from asking for a raise, or telling someone you have a crush on them, that’s when it becomes a problem.
Our brains don’t recognize the difference between a real threat (hangry tiger) and a perceived threat (talking to a crush). Instead, both of them occur as being equally scary.
You know when you are hanging out on your couch and you hear a loud BANG! and your heart jumps and you get really really scared for like 1 second? Yeah, that same thing happens when we are confronted with talking to a stranger or speaking in public, but on a smaller scale.
As the tiger crouches for the pounce, the blood rushes to your arms and legs preparing you for the fight or flight, we’re no longer thinking about anything else except survival…by any means necessary. This is the same thing that happens when the boss calls us into his office. Not the greatest mind set when having a conversation about your future.
This chart highlights how sometimes the least dangerous things occur as the scariest thing in the world.
Whether its talking to a room full of people, asking a crush out, or starting your own business, these body sensations stop us and keep us immobilized. Not super great. Our body tells our brain Danger! and our brain starts thinking “I don’t know if I can handle this…” And then we don’t.
There is really only one cure for fear: do it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Do the thing, and you shall have the power.”
You can learn alot from your fear, as often times the things that scare us most are the things we need and want the most.
So what would you do if you were ten times bolder? If you knew you could do it, what would IT be?